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It is groundhog day with an infant. Feed, change, sooth, sleep and the sequence continues everyday, forever- or at least what feels like forever. Then let's just add in the other aspects of groundhog day. Complete and utter sleep deprivation, all of your clothes ( let's be real, pj's) have either spit up, poop or pee on them, haven't showered in weeks and can barely form a complete sentence. Yes my friend welcome to the book...
SURVIVING YOUR INFANT
Yes, my friends, they forgot this one for good reason. If we found out how life would turn into survival of our own being- civilization would simply die out. I am very very thankful to be able to tell you that I did survive! Myself and my amazing kids did too, yet it is still one of the hardest times in a new parents life. Not knowing up from down and constantly wondering if you are going to accidentally kill your kid today- insanity would definitely be a great defense!
After survival, kids are still alive and yet exhaustion has set in even more at this point. I am still struggling to get a shower still , hair hasn't seen a wash in a while, laundry is never ending and when I actually get a moment to go to the bathroom, seems as if someone is always with me. This book that I never found is called..
THE ADULT WHO IS HOME ALONE
I was still married at the time this book should have come out, and yes, I was a stay at home mom and had 2 little ones- 2 years and under, a girl and a boy. The days continued to be like groundhog day- yet even busier, more exhausting and very little sleep. My temperament was something of a live wire, so when the ole hubby came home, normally after 7 pm( mind you he left at 6 am), he would always ask me why the house was such a mess, why haven't I started dinner yet and I was told on many occasions that he would "rescue" me so that I could get a shower or get food ready. This book of the adult who is home alone would have given some insight on how to let out anger, frustration, resentment and wanting to truly hurt the parents out there that had it all together.
Now comes my favorite part! The ultimate book that somehow was never printed.
PUBERTY, PERIODS AND SEX
In my younger years, no one talked about periods, let alone sex or even the insight to have any sort of good information. I got my period and my mom made me eggs and gave me a book, I don't even remember what it was, but what I do remember it that it didn't really explain anything.
Now as a parent, I am "that" mom, the one who talks and talks a lot. I talk to my kids so much they often tell me to stop talking. Being a nurse I do have books and information that I given both of my kids to actually see real bodies. I did find an American girl doll book about growing up, but mainly that was about keeping your body clean and how to use deodorant and what not. Going back to the many conversations I have had with my kids, more with my daughter than she would even want, but what do I say to my son? I have no experience with what is going on in a male body, let alone know how to explain why his penis is hard! Yet tonight on the news they are talking about social media influencers that are talking about birth control, and they are talking about it wrong! For the love of...
Even though I am saying that a bit more information or support for anyone would have been great- the issue that would still remains, when in the world would I have time to read it?
When it all comes down to it, is it a book or manual that we truly need? Clearly there just needs to be more talking. As we talk, we teach and we also learn and can then bend and shift to where the conversation is going. The conversation may feel awkward and embarrassing, and not only for the adult, but what is the alternative...
15 to 50...and everything in between
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